This Memorial Website was Created in the Loving Memory of My Son Allan Tomlin
My Beautiful Son Allanwas born in Southport England on Saturday the 26th February 1977 and passed away suddenley and tragically by accident in the early hours of the 17th September 2002 while sleeping at the devastingly young age of 25 Leaving behind a devasted family. Broken hearted mum Delia, Step dad Billy, Brothers BJ & Shane Grand mother Edith, Grandad Joe, Auntie Netty & Uncle Frank, Auntie Lin, Auntie Margy & Uncle John, Auntie maria, Auntie Dawn & partner Michael (also friend) Cousins, Andrea, Paul, Jay, Erin, Ellie & Aimee Erin's partner Gareth & little Declan & lots & lots of close friends
Allanwas a really nice caring person, he was so good looking, he had a radient smile, he had a good sense of humour and a kind heart every body liked him, he was so hard working in everything he did, I used to always call him Angel and now he is one. Allan grew up in Southport with his brother BJ, mum Delia and his step dad Billy using Billy's surname Beggs, as you'll see things on this site use both names Tomlin and Beggs, when Allan grew up he started to use his own name Tomlin
Allan has a brother called BJ, Allan loved him very much, BJ has learning difficulties, cerebral palsy & is profoundly deaf his only form of communication is British Sign Language, BJ will never marry or have children of his own, drive a car, work or any of the other normal things we all do, he has support worker's who come & take him out so he can be independent from us on a day to day basis, Allan never got to have children either so we will never have the pleasure of having any grand children and that means our family stops here just Billy, Delia, Allan & BJ
Allan tried a few jobs after he left school he always worked hard in any job he had, he was always conscientious and did everything to the best of his ability.He always had a girlfriend his first real girlfriend was called Jenny she was a lovely girl they went out together for about two years.Then there was Hayley they was on and off right up to the Christmas before allan died, Hayley has a little girl called Jazmin, Allan loved Jazmin to bits, he treated her as if she were his own daughter.
Allan moved to bedford down south near London after his 21st Birthday with his then girlfriend Cindy they moved in with Cindy's auntie at first till they could get a flat of there own. Allan got a job in a Butchers shop which he liked and they got a small flat together, they seemed okay for a while but Cindy had to return to the USA. Allan decided to stay in Bedford as he had settled there and made some good friends.
Allan got a new job in stock contol at Spectrum for Debenhams and met a new girl called Louise they dated for a while and then got a nice new flat togther, they seemed really happy and stayed in that flat for about two years, Allan always had a girlfriend for two years. After Al and Lou split Allan kept his flat on. He made some good friends in Bedford, Muski and Gavin to name a few
Allan always tried to come home for the holidays and if he couldn't he would always send presents, he would say he couldn't make Christmas then at the last minute he would ring and I would be running up to Preston even Manchester last thing on Christmas Eve to meet him of the train.
Allan like most kids do would ring me when he moved some where and say mum come and see me and help me, I would drop everything go five hours down the motoway with the car full of quilts pots and pans and things for his flat, clean it top to bottom then do his shopping then cry half the way home, it was so painful leaving him some where, I didn't know what pain was then.
Allan started to see Hayley and Jazmin again she traveled to Bedford a couple of times to see him and stayed with him at the flat a few times. Then at Christmas when he moved home they took up again then it was off again.
Allan missed his family and wanted to move back nearer home so at Christmas 2001 we went to Bedford and helped Allan to move home again that was a great Christmas for me.
Allan loved cooking and one of his favourite types of food was Indian food, while in Bedford Allan's friends wife taught him some Indian cookery so were ever Allan lived his Indian cook books, recipes, blender, chopping board, knifes and spices would go. Allan would regually cook for his friends he was very good at it. Allan spent the whole of Boxing Day 2001working hard in the kitchen cooking for us at home so i could have a rest and relax all day, we had course after course of Indian food it was lovely. That was to be Allan's last Christmas, I will treasure that memory forever.
Allan got bored after Christmas and in the Febuary of 2002 he decided to move to my sister's house in Blackpool and look for work, he got a Job in the food industry, he worked as a catering assitant at the Outside Inn Eating House that is attached to the Blackpool Premier Lodge Motel. He loved it and we hoped one day Allan would enrol in college and train to be a chef
Allan moved out of my sister's house and in with two friends from work Kev and Fran and they all got along fine taking all his cooking tools with him of course
Monday 16th September 2002 The last day of Allan's life Allan could sleep for England, he got up about three pm when a casual girlfriend called for him, he had just finished working a ten day shift at the Outside Inn and was looking forward to three days off, he went to the shop with the girlfriend and arranged to meet her that night, later on she cancelled as her little girl didn't feel well Allan had a bath watched some tv and at about ten pm went round to a couples flat that he new from work with some tins of beer and vodca I know he rang for a pizza about midnight and fell to sleep in the early hours. Tuesday 17th September 2002 My Beautiful Son Allan was Dead Allan was found Dead late morning on these people's settee, he had passed away in the early hours of Tuesday morning and they never even noticed. I HATE THOSE PEOPLE ........
Thanks to Judie Smart Craig Smart's Mom for this beautiful picture of me & Allan
Thanks for stopping by Please visit Allan's site again & again Let us know you have been by lighting a candle for Al or leaving a message
When a parent dies you lose your past, When your child dies you lose your future.
Merry Christmas. / Cousin Andrea Its Christmas time here again, the fifth one you have missed, No turkey dinner, party time or even getting piss**, I know your watching over us, I sense you all around, I hate saying merry Christmas to the cold and empty ground.
I can feel your spirit always, but it’s hard when you can’t see, I know that you’re an angel, not just upon the tree, You add that extra twinkle to this special time of year, So...... Merry Christmas Allan, cos I know that you can hear !!
My Mum Is A Surviver
My Mum Is A Survivor
My Mum is a survivor, or so I've heard it said. But I hear her crying at night when all others are in bed. I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand. She doesn't know I'm with her to help her understand. But like the sands on the beach that never wash away... I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day. She wears a smile for others...a smile of disguise. But through Heaven's door I see tears flowing from her eyes. My mum tries to cope with death to keep my memory alive. But anyone who knows her knows it is her way to survive. As I watch over my surviving mum...through Heaven's open door. I try to tell her that angels protect me forever more. But I know that doesn't help her or ease the burden she bears. So if you get a chance, go visit her...And show her that you care. For no matter what she says...no matter what she feels. My surviving mum has a broken heart that time won't ever heal~!
If you double click the link below it will take you to compassionate friends, click on to Wall of Memory and click T, Allan's name is there. Delia www.tcfatlanta.org
Dear Allan, From Auntie Magy, 17-9-2005 Dear Allan, I am writing this to you rather than about you, who knows, you may just read it. 3 years since you left us, they say time is a great healer, I dont know about that, It doesn't get any less painful, you just get more used to the pain. I still find it very hard to look at photo's of your handsome face, remember the laughs we had ( Leo & Brad ) and I meant it by the way.I wish that I could hug you, but I know that if you are anywere today you are chillin in gods garden.You left me a Legacy Al which is how precious life is and how fragile it is & to live everyday grateful for not what you have but who you have & to tell people you love them just because you do.I think of you always with such fondness & love, I miss you Al & I miss things for you. I will never forget your face & your laughter Dear Al you are always on my mind Always love Auntie Margy xxx
I DID NOT DIE
Do not stand at my grave and forever weep. I am not there; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush. I am the swift uplifting rush. Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and forever cry. I am not there, I did not die.
IF TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME
If tomorrow starts without me, and I'm not there to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me; I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today, While thinking of the many things we didn't get to say. I know how much you love me...as much as i love you, And each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too; But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand, That an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand, And said my place was ready in heaven far above, And that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love. But as i turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye, For all my life, I'd always thought, I didn't want to die. I had so much to live for, so much yet to do, It seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you. I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad, I thought of all the love we shared and all the fun we had. If i could relive yesterday just even for a while, I'd say good-bye and kiss you, and maybe see you smile. But then I fully realized that this could never be, For emptiness and memories would take the place of me. And when i thought of worldly things I might miss come tomorrow, I thought of you, and when i did my heart was filled with sorrow. So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart, For evey time you think of me, I'm right here, in your heart.